Nobody deserves to suffer violence. Domestic violence can be expressed verbally, psychologically, physically, sexually or economically.
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Marc and Renée were married for 2 years. Before their marriage, Renee had noticed that Marc often became impatient and that he sometimes lost his temper. He also reproached her for being the reason. Sometimes he displayed possessive behavior, and could not stand his friends contacting him on the phone. When Renee tried to tell him about it, he told her that everything would be better once they were married. Renee had never spoken to her parents or friends.
However, after their marriage, Marc's bizarre behaviors did not disappear, on the contrary they worsened. He screamed and lowered Renee in front of his friends. He called her incompetent in the management of the house, he was never satisfied. Renee told herself that Marc was probably right and that she would try to do better next time. The situation continued, until Marc struck her and pushed her down the stairs. Renee did not recognize the warning signals that her relationship with Marc was abusive and unhealthy.
Spousal psychological violence is any psychological attack from one partner to the other. It is usually directed against women. It can happen to anyone in an intimate relationship, regardless of age, marital status, ethnicity, religion or socio-economic background. It can happen in any home. Often, when you are in a relationship, blinded by love, it is not easy to tell the difference between normal behavior and abusive behavior. It is even more difficult to identify the abuse if the partner is not physically abusive. Unfortunately, Christian homes are not immune to this kind of violence and often children also pay the price. Sometimes Christian women feel guilty when they experience such a situation. In seeking to save their marriage they forget themselves and often do not seek the necessary help until it is too late.
Know how to recognize warning signals
Genuinely consider the following points to identify if your relationship is on the right slope.
- Your partner does not let you get in touch with your friends, or your family members.
- Your partner denigrates you or criticizes you constantly.
- Your partner scares you, intimidates you, makes you feel guilty for his behavior.
- Your partner tries to control you by dictating your actions and making all the decisions.
- Your partner wants everything to always be done in his own way.
- Your partner is jealous, possessive, questions and verifies your actions.
- Your partner screams, yells, lowers you in front of your friends, tells you that you are incompetent or ugly.
- Your partner is watching you and controlling you constantly.
- Your partner destroys your belongings including car, furniture, clothes and house.
- Your partner refuses to give you money because you refuse to have sex
- Your partner is critical of how you care for your children, threatening to take them or hurt them.
- Your partner is preventing you from working or training.
- Your partner denies or minimizes the abuse and tries to blame you for his actions.
- Your partner threatens to kill you.
- Your partner threatens to commit suicide.
If you have responded positively to one or more of these questions, you are probably in an abusive relationship.
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Other resources:To go further on this theme, see also: Cycle of domestic violence and also marital violence: The hell in everyday life.